Happiness, I’ve learned, is not a destination, and framing my journey toward it set myself into what I call “milestone mindset,” you know the kind. The “I’ll be happy when…
I make more money
I loose 10 pounds
I get my dream job
I meet the love of my life
The journey becomes a checklist of all the “to do’s” before I allow myself to be happy. Setting up the perfect conditions where all can be well. For me, it is best to no longer frame happiness as a destination but rather to being instead.
Through a series of exercises and questions while working with my coach, I discovered the core values that I value most in my life. The most important, is being.
Being can mean a lot of things to many people. The dictionary defines being as “the nature or essence of a person.” Being means living freely, authentically and unapologetically as my true self, connected to all of my values. Being knows everything that ego doesn’t.
Living from a place of being no longer puts me in a “to-do” type mindset as happiness did. I find rather than leading me down a materialistic or circumstantial type mindset, connecting to being will never steer me in the wrong direction. It will always bring me back in alignment with what is most important to me.
Such a small change in my mindset has shifted my perspective enormously and has me question what other tiny changes I can be making to improve my daily life?
What’s your tagline/mantra/words to live by? Leave a comment below and let me know!